The Stories We Tell Ourselves (And How They Shape Our Kids Too)
LollyWilliams-Gibbs Williams-Gibbs 
Discover how your inner beliefs shape your child’s confidence and how to rewrite the story for you and them.
We all have an inner voice.
Sometimes it’s kind. Encouraging. Empowering.
But other times? It’s the reason we hold ourselves back.
“I’m not good enough.”
“I always mess things up.”
“I don’t have what it takes.”
Sound familiar?
These stories often start way back, passed down through experiences, expectations, or things we heard growing up. And without realising it, we absorb them as truths... even though they’re not.
But here’s the thing we don’t talk about enough:
Our kids are learning how to talk to themselves by listening to the way we talk to ourselves.
Let that land for a moment.
Every time you criticise yourself out loud…
Every time you brush off a compliment…
Every time you doubt your worth…
They’re watching.
They’re absorbing.
They’re learning what normal looks like.
And that’s why, today, we’re going to explore the power of mindset and belief and how transforming our own inner stories helps us raise stronger, more resilient children.
👣 First: What Are the Stories You’re Telling Yourself?
We all carry beliefs that shape how we see ourselves, what we think we’re capable of, and how we respond when life gets hard.
Some of these beliefs might sound like:
“I’m not the kind of person who follows through.”
“I’ve always been shy/anxious/not confident.”
“I could never run a business/change careers/do something bold.”
“This is just the way I am.”
These beliefs might feel harmless. But when you look a little closer, they’re actually building invisible walls between where you are now and where you want to be.
And worse still? They silently teach our children that they should shrink, doubt themselves, or give up too.
That’s not the legacy any of us want to pass down.
✨ The Truth About Belief
Here’s something I remind my clients all the time:
“A belief is just a thought you’ve repeated enough times that your brain thinks it’s fact.”
That means we can choose different thoughts.
More empowering ones.
More truthful ones.
Not because we’re pretending everything is perfect.
But because we’re choosing to write a different story, one that serves us (and our children) better.
🧠 Real Talk: How This Shows Up in Everyday Mum Life
Let’s get practical. Here’s how belief patterns show up and how a simple shift can create a ripple effect:
📌 The Compliment Deflector:
Your child says, “Mummy, you look pretty today.”
You respond, “Oh no I don’t, I look a mess.”
➡ Swap it for:
“Thank you, love. That was kind of you to say.”
You’ve just modelled how to receive kindness instead of rejecting it.
📌 The Confidence Crusher:
You’re trying something new and say, “I’ll probably mess it up.”
➡ Swap it for:
“This is new for me, but I’m proud of myself for trying.”
You’ve just modelled bravery and growth mindset.
📌 The All-Or-Nothing Thinker:
You didn’t stick to a routine or complete your to-do list and you say, “I’m so rubbish at this.”
➡ Swap it for:
“Today didn’t go to plan but I’m learning what works for me.”
You’ve just shown your child that perfection isn’t the goal, progress is.
💬 A Moment of Reflection
Grab a notebook and take a few quiet minutes to ask yourself:
What’s one belief I’ve carried for years that no longer serves me?
Where do I think that belief came from?
What would I rather believe instead?
How can I begin to model that belief to my child, out loud?
You don’t have to be perfect.
You don’t need all the answers.
But this small act of awareness? That’s the beginning of rewriting your story and changing theirs too.
💡 Your Top Tip This Week:
Choose one empowering belief you want to pass on to your child.
Write it on a sticky note.
Pop it on your mirror, fridge, or inside your diary.
And every time you see it, say it out loud.
Because the more you say it, the more you’ll believe it.
And the more they will too.
👋 Final Thoughts
Changing the stories we tell ourselves doesn’t happen overnight.
But every small shift creates a ripple.
You are not stuck with the thoughts you were handed.
You get to rewrite them.
You get to choose a legacy that starts with your own healing and mindset and passes down empowerment, confidence, and resilience.
You are not just changing your life, you’re changing theirs too.
And that? That’s the power of being a mum who chooses to grow.
Categories: : Mindset and Belief Transformation
